Happy New Year 2018

RIP Michael Delmonte

It has become a shock in the middle of the night to find out that we lost another brother.  David, his brother, informed everybody that he passed away fighting against cancer the afternoon of 10/18/2017, and is now free of pain and can be there with his mother.

Michael had a heart of gold.  We talked occasionally from time to time and had been a great person and friend.

RIP Michael.  Sleep well.

Father's Day

Wishing you all gay father's a wonderful father's day.

Enjoy your day!

Do tattoos make a men more sexy?

Quick answer to that I would think is yes.  Of course, it depends on what the tattoo is.  If it's something normal, with a meaning, I'm totally up for it. But when it's a hello kitty he got when he was drunk, then he's just a fool.  A tattoo should be something you get for yourself, not to show it off, which a lot of men do.  If you get a tattoo, you have to love it for a long time so you know what you want.  I mean I have a tattoo on my back blade of comedy and tragedy masks with a ribbon around it saying laugh now cry later.  The reason for me getting this tattoo is because I enjoy performing arts.

TATTOO IS ART.  Simple as that.  They are just so beautiful to see don't get me wrong, and I'm sure I'm not the only one that thinks so.  Have you ever seen a guy across the room that’s pretty decent looking, and then you catch a glimpse of a tattoo sneaking out from underneath his collar or sleeve. All of a sudden, this pretty decent looking man increases in attractive points. You know what I’m talking about; men with tattoos have that special something.

But why do men perceive with tattoos to be tougher or more handsome?  Many get tattoos to look cool or badass to impress but I really don't think a tattoo is going to change anything.

Sure, deep down we all know that tattoos hurt, but unless the ink is spectacular, even among tattooed folk, our first reaction is hardly to think about how much pain a person endured to 'earn their ink.'

We've created a culture that depicts tough, rugged men as having tattoos. When we portray men in any media, we tend to pick the handsome ones to display. So, over time, you get used to associating the chiseled physique and general good looks with the tattoos that often adorn these figures.

Coming out: Busted!

I never came out, but more like ratted so to speak.  I wasn't ready to come out at 21.

Twenty-five years ago, on an Easter the family gathered around the apartment having a good time.  Behind my back, my brother went looking for playboy magazines in my bedroom and instead he saw male porn magazines like Honcho, Torso, and Inches.  He talked to me with the door closed where I confided in him that I was gay, I couldn't deny it since he found the gay magazines. He thought it was a phase I was going through.  He just wasn't convinced until I showed him my journal, which I had been writing about my homosexuality.

Moments later my name was called in the bedroom by my mother.  I went into the bedroom and the door was closed behind me.  I didn't know my brother was behind the door.  She confronted me about the gay magazines.

Awkward moment!

Right there I knew I was busted.  No thanks to my brother because he ended up telling my mother and the word got around at the end of the day with the family.

The next day all our friends knew.  They all were comfortable about it but it was taking my mother awhile to understand it and eventually accepted.  My father on the other hand, I'm pretty sure he knows because today he is convinced I am adopted.

Thank you member for submitting your coming out story.

Happy St Patricks Day

Happy Saint Patricks Day !

Saint Patrick's Day is a public holiday in the Republic of Ireland, Northern Ireland, the Canadian province of Newfoundland and Labrador, and the British Overseas Territory of Montserrat. It is also widely celebrated by the Irish diaspora around the world, especially in Great Britain, Canada, the United States, Argentina, Australia, and New Zealand. Saint Patrick's Day is celebrated in more countries than any other national festival. Modern celebrations have been greatly influenced by those of the Irish diaspora, particularly those that developed in North America. In recent years, there has been criticism of Saint Patrick's Day celebrations for having become too commercialized and for fostering negative stereotypes of the Irish.

Enjoy and have fun.