Rest In Peace for Danzig Macpherson's partner Ron

I just wanted to add this to the Bear Talk Woof blog as some of you may know Ron.  So I want to spread the word and bring it to your attention that who happens to be Danzig Macpherson's partner had passed away on Friday.

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Howdy Fellow BearZone Members,

Danzig Macpherson’s, former Oregon Bear Board member, partner Ron passed away this last Friday. Danzig wanted this passed along to the BearZone so those who remember Ron would know what happened. Below is an excerpt from the note that was sent to me…..

Frank Armstrong

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I wanted to pass some bad news along to you. I had an e-mail from Danzig when I got in yesterday morning that Ron had passed away on Friday from a massive heart attack.

I called Danzig last night to get more details. He’s devastated, of course. Can’t hardly think straight. He said that Ron had been having some trouble off and on but they thought it was asthma and sinus.

He said, and of course we knew this, that everybody loved Ron. Well of course, he was a nice guy!

Danzig did have a favor to ask of the Bears. I don’t have access to the Zone anymore so I’m hoping you can help me with it. Danzig asked if we could let folks know about Ron since there were so many people that did like him and if anyone has any pictures of Ron that they would like to share, could they please send them to him, Danzig. He thought Steve L. might have some pictures as well since he took so many at some of the events. Danzig’s e-mail is lthrcowbear@msn.com. There are no plans for a funeral or memorial service at this time, but I know that Ron is going to be cremated.

Why guys are concerned with other guys from far away?

It’s interesting how some guys are so concerned about meeting other guys that are not in their area. There was a guy who wrote a couple of blogs which I had read. He wrote this one blog stating that he was wondering why guys that are living in the same area as you don’t bother talking to you but the guys who live outside the country or state are the ones who are interested. Why do guys feel this way? Why do guys worry about not meeting guys in their area? All guys have to do is log onto the website and go to the advance options for searching in your area. Guy, when go online to one of the bear sites, you are going to experience and expect to see and hear guys coming from all over the world. Everybody knows that you can’t judge someone that you like just by looking at their pictures. Pictures could be deceiving. That’s why it’s important for people to read someone’s profile fully.

He also mentioned in his blog that he was concerned on that he would contact someone and asking how his day was going or a simple good morning, that person will not respond to him and sometimes takes that person a day or two to respond back to him. He also mentioned about webcamming and that it is 2011 and how everybody could purchase a webcam at WalMart. I guess he was implying that people could put up a picture of themselves on their profiles by using their webcam. Guys like him should understand that guys don’t spend much time on profiles 24/7 and also not many people are interested in webcamming and taking pictures. I believe that there are guys who like to play games and all that. But hey, some people are camera shy and if they do respond to you straight away or without their profile photo; it’s your choice whether or not to connect with them. He chose to complain about it.

Sometimes guys online are too hard on themselves that all they know what to do is worry and complain about other men who are not in their city or not interested in them. This is very unhealthy feeling. It must be one’s self conscious that they would think that guys who are close to them not want to talk to them. It’s like that everywhere. I'm not sure why guys always say something like "why are all the good looking guys so far away" or why they can't find anyone in their neighborhood. The internet is a world wide web and you will see you will come across with people throughout the world which is distracting to where you are located so you are going to experience meeting people all over the world. Have you even typed in your neighborhood and started to chat them? You could find someone if you really want to and it doesn’t have to be serious. It’s always good to be friends first with someone. Guys are soo concerned on getting into someone’s pants for a quick one. That’s another thing, not every guy you meet are going to want to get into one’s pants. I had stopped looking for love and it took a long time for me to realize that I wasn't having any connection, so I stopped searching. I decided to allow the love come to me naturally.

And guys, when you write to someone, and they don’t respond to you right away (perhaps you see them online, or ) don’t get pissed off and annoyed because they are not responding to you because a lot of guys like myself stay logged on to certain websites and not be at the computer. There are people who are very busy with their lifestyles that they don’t have time to write you back straight away so take it easy and wait for them to have that time to respond to you. If they see you are trying to make a connection with them they may find you being a pest or harassing them and that will push them away.

Grommr - New Bear Site

Hey there fellow bears,

I just want to let you all know that I had discovered a new bear site through a friend of mine.  I just signed up myself today to check it out to see what it is like.  Its an interesting site, I suppose it's a mixture of Twitter and Facebook.  It would be nice to see you guys on the site.  If you like to experience Grommr, you could sign up by going to www.Grommr.com, and when you sign up feel free to stop by my profile and follow me.  Search me "beefybri".  Follow me and I will follow you.

Beartown 16 Bears In BridgeTown

Beartown 16

Bears In Bridgetown

Portland, Oregon 

June 9-12

Okay guys, those of you haven't booked yourselves to the Beartown 16 be sure to register yourselves before its too late.  For more information you could click onto the following link.

BEARTOWN 16 Bears in Bridgetown

The Homeless Friend We Took In

I am so aggravated at a friend right now.  Wednesday he calls up crying and rambling on the phone that the owner of the house was throwing him out because the owner was selling the house.   We took him in so we could talk to him that night because my partner knows a lot about his situation and where he could go as a homeless person.  He was looking for something to drink so my partner said water.  I mentioned there is orange juice and apple cranberry juice.  He then spotted the milk and made it clear the he ‘loves’ milk.  It seemed that he didn’t eat anything and was eating stuff from the fridge and our cereal.  After a long time I told him the first thing he should do is get things done early and to start seeing people at 8.30am.

I told him the first thing he should do when he gets up to go to places like seeing his case manager (which is in Portland Oregon) and clinics around this area who could support homelessness and could provide temporary housing.

That morning I went to the fridge and the gallon of milk we bought a day and a half ago we nearly gone.  I asked what he was doing for the morning and he told me that he couldn't do anything until after 1pm.  I don't know any company or clinic or whichever where you have to wait until after 1pm, the day was nearly over by that time.  I told him that my partner had an appointment at noon and I needed to head to college to study.  Technically we couldn’t keep him here.  We couldn’t afford to take on someone.

I had talked to him Friday and he was telling me that he chanced it by sleeping at the house where he was kicked out from where there was no electricity. I was throwing out questions to know how he was doing but he was ignoring all my questions.

Yesterday I asked him where he was staying and he told me at Pollys Adult Home but was outside using his laptop by the dumpster.  I was confused on what he was saying.  Trying to get as much information out of him, he suddenly jumps down my throat saying that he was homeless and has been spending the night outside in the cold.  But he never said that.  He stated that he was at the PAH, that was it.  But for some reason I wasn’t too sure why he was using the electricity by the dumpster behind the building.  He kept saying that it was cold outside.  Yes I feel bad about his situation but I don’t have much care if he doesn’t care for himself.  Why should I care about someone else if they are not going to care for themselves?  All of a sudden he started to say how retarded I was and bitched out at me about his situation.

I said, “Dude, first off, I don't like or appreciate people calling names.  I find that very rude and obnoxious.  And saying retarded is a very childish name. Second off, I asked you from the beginning where are you staying and did you have a place to stay and you did state that you were staying at the Pollys and then said you were outside.”

Basically what I was trying to do was to get a clear picture of what his plans were going to be.  So I told him not to be jumping down my throat because he was pissed off because he was homeless.  I also told him that my partner and I did what we could to help him bout.  I then told him to read his emails because I had sent him VALUABLE INFORMATION to help him.  I don’t even know why I even bother when he was not even helping himself out.

My partner had given him valuable information the night we took him in for the night what he should be doing.  My partner and I were doing this so he could be prepared what he needs to be doing in that morning.  I mean, my mouth dropped when he told me that he couldn’t do anything after 1pm.  We were confused what he meant by that.  We don't know any place where people had to wait that late of the day to seek help, especially with people in his condition.  My partner knows it because he has been in his shoes plenty of times.

He could have done something that Friday before the weekend started so he could have a place to stay.  So I told him that it was his life and that I had my life and need to get back to my studies.  I just left it like that.  But he’s not going to come back here because for one we didn’t see any progress and two my partner told me that he didn’t want to deal with another person was like his ex.

It’s interesting how you help people out and they shit all over you.

Bear On The Prowler

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