Knowing the person first

Always know what the person before you set some kind of commitment and it could be anything from entering the house, or knowing the person online or whichever.  First off, I would never bring anyone in to my own home without knowing what the person is like. No fucken way.  You don't know what the person is like behind closed doors.  They could be psychos to all you know.

A friend of mine wrote  "I was just discussing that with a receptionist at my thyroid specialist. Years ago my boyfriend had put an ad on Craigslist to sell his daughter's Beanie Babies. A woman called and was interested so we agreed to have her over to show her the collection. My boyfriend decided to also put out some other things to sell. At one point she saw that in a bedroom I had my computer on, and asked if she could send a quick email. I said "ok" and kept an eye on her here and there(I did have a purse hanging on the inside doorknob against the door). All of a sudden she bolted out the front door and had her ride waiting. It wasn't until later that I noticed my purse was gone. The next day we got a call from a bank a few blocks away saying they found my purse in their parking lot. I went to pick it up and EVERYTHING was still in my purse! I didn't have any cash(wasn't working), and had no money in the bank. So, luckily the joke was on her! I had filed a report with the police and she was caught and sent to prison and we both had to separately identify her. Unfortunately there were also several other people there with a similar story. She had ripped those people off too!"

With her story, it was selling stuff on Craigslist.  Like I said, it could be anything and this could lead to danger.  Even a new roommate.  You could be talking to that person for a year or two and still haven't met face to face.  In reality, you really don't know the person until you meet him face to face to know what that person is like.  You may think you know the person but you don't.

Here is an example and I learned from it.  There was an Australian I met online and we hit it off very well.  After a year of talking to Clinton, he was talking about medications he was taking and didn't have the money for it.  So I threw money over to him as well as gifts.  When he got the money he was calling all the names in the books and how worthless I was.  Well put it this way, I hope Clinton "did" use the money for his medications because he needed help.

So with that said, be sure you know what you are getting into.  Make sure you know the person before you go into the deep end for some form of relationship.