Knowing the person first

Always know what the person before you set some kind of commitment and it could be anything from entering the house, or knowing the person online or whichever.  First off, I would never bring anyone in to my own home without knowing what the person is like. No fucken way.  You don't know what the person is like behind closed doors.  They could be psychos to all you know.

A friend of mine wrote  "I was just discussing that with a receptionist at my thyroid specialist. Years ago my boyfriend had put an ad on Craigslist to sell his daughter's Beanie Babies. A woman called and was interested so we agreed to have her over to show her the collection. My boyfriend decided to also put out some other things to sell. At one point she saw that in a bedroom I had my computer on, and asked if she could send a quick email. I said "ok" and kept an eye on her here and there(I did have a purse hanging on the inside doorknob against the door). All of a sudden she bolted out the front door and had her ride waiting. It wasn't until later that I noticed my purse was gone. The next day we got a call from a bank a few blocks away saying they found my purse in their parking lot. I went to pick it up and EVERYTHING was still in my purse! I didn't have any cash(wasn't working), and had no money in the bank. So, luckily the joke was on her! I had filed a report with the police and she was caught and sent to prison and we both had to separately identify her. Unfortunately there were also several other people there with a similar story. She had ripped those people off too!"

With her story, it was selling stuff on Craigslist.  Like I said, it could be anything and this could lead to danger.  Even a new roommate.  You could be talking to that person for a year or two and still haven't met face to face.  In reality, you really don't know the person until you meet him face to face to know what that person is like.  You may think you know the person but you don't.

Here is an example and I learned from it.  There was an Australian I met online and we hit it off very well.  After a year of talking to Clinton, he was talking about medications he was taking and didn't have the money for it.  So I threw money over to him as well as gifts.  When he got the money he was calling all the names in the books and how worthless I was.  Well put it this way, I hope Clinton "did" use the money for his medications because he needed help.

So with that said, be sure you know what you are getting into.  Make sure you know the person before you go into the deep end for some form of relationship.

Are you in an open or monogamous relationship?

This is a question that keeps being brought up in the gay community.  Some are monogamous and some are open.  The fact is that there are more open relationships than the monogamous relationships. However, there are those who are somewhat one-sided monogamous.  One person in the relationship is monogamous and the other is open.  This wouldn't be called cheating, as long as they both agreed to this.

What I had noticed is that on the bear sites is that there is a single guy who is talking to a guy who happens to be partnered.  He doesn't realize it until after the guy said "we", or "my partner" rather than "I".  Of course the single guy didn't know about the guy is partnered.  Why?  Because he didn't read the description in the profile that the guy is partnered.  The second that the single guy finds this information he becomes confused and annoyed wondering why the guy was on the site if he was partnered.

Many singles go through this and ask that question to partnered couples on why they are on the site if they are partnered.  Well its really simple. Its a social site not a dating site.

Lots of singles just cannot accept friendship and chats as they are so worried about being alone and lonely.  In this case, they go out trying to find other singles and most of the time its the appearance and how cute they are rather than the person inside of it. 

That's why I say to read all your profiles before chatting with the person rather being interested in what the guy looks like and how big his dick is in his pants.  If singles cannot accept the person and their profile what he wrote then they better move on to the next profile.  Don't waste the guy's time.  

I met someone

I finally met someone.  Yes, you did.  All the time tears streamed down your face with sadness, you wondered why you haven't met that special someone in your life and what you are doing wrong.

Just when you thought that things are not going your way, that special someone contacts you through our facebook page.   You see?  There you were crying over nothing.  I knew you would eventually meet that someone in your life.    All things come to a good end in your life.  All you have to do now is take things slow, and just enjoy each other that you are a part of each other's life.

I am very pleased to hear for those who are members to Bear Talk Woof had met your special man.  Thank you all who made Bear Talk Woof happen.  Something that even I didn't expect for guys to meet other guys and having that special relationship.

Weekend photos

Hey there everyone
I hope you are doing well and having a great holiday weekend.  Well I have made a decision on photos onto the group in Facebook.  To make things fair I had decided to accept photos on weekends plus holidays, and during the week we could have chatting after-all that's what the group was created for Bears Talking and not just submitting photos as it is not a photos gallery.  If you want to submit photos during the week, I had created a tumblr page and feel free to send your photos to beartalkwoof@gmail.com

So if you happen to post a pic on the group and waiting for approval, don't take offense because its been deleted.   I don't want the group to be just pictures.  I rather have some participating and interaction.

One side stories

When you are friends with someone, its always easy to take that person's side over the person you are not friends with at all.  By this and hearing that person's side is only partial or biased to hear on one person's view on things without investigating the whole scenerio.  When that friend takes that person's side its favors to them and makes the person feel more powerful.  But it truely doesn't.  The friend is only hearing his side of the story without knowing the FULL STORY.

For example

On Facebook a guy name Jeff was talking to someone and they were fighting with their words back and forth.  People are reading and giving their opinion about what they think.  Before you know it that person is taking off the friend's list by Jeff because he couldn't handle the fighting.  Jeff is angry and pissed off.  Jeff then posts something negative on his profile and other people responds to his thread and how much of an asshole that person was, or they may yeah, he sounds crazy, or something like that.

People can easily jump into conclusions without knowing the full story about things.  So when Jeff posts something on his profile, gives him that power to his friends and getting replies that would build up his credibility that he is right.  By posting something negative about the person tells me that this person has hate in him which is why Jeff posted negative things on his thread.

So with that said, always take in both sides into consideration because it would give you a better idea what the full story is about and then make your opinion about.  Don't judge a book by its cover as its not always going to be that true book.

Robert looking for friends possible relationship

Robert Whitaker is Single and he's looking for other singles out there for friends and turn into a possible relationship.  He's willing to relocate for that right person.  

Could you be that person?  Only way to find out.  Contact him and make your acquaintance to him. He's very friendly and down to earth.

do you have any questions?  Just ask him on Bear Talk Woof Facebook page to get in touch with him.